John Hollywood writes about pop culture with a psychological twist; his articles are practical in nature with a "how-to" approach. Gay dating has always been sort of tricky. Second, there is the entire matter of compatibility in the bedroom. Here we are talking about who prefers to do what and if that person is any good at it. Third, both guys need to figure out if the interest level goes beyond a mere hookup.
Does wearing a silver ring on your right-hand ring finger mean you're gay? As it does if you are artsy, bookish and "alternative"? A few years back, if you were wearing these kinds of accessories, like rings and earrings, people would point the finger at you for being queer. These days, the description of the quintessential homo has changed to ambiguous at best and less labeled. Damaging stereotypes and generalizations of queers from the older days still linger on today. We gay people are a diverse and broad group of individuals, who come in all shapes and sizes and personalities and dress. When many people think about gay men, they automatically associate them with certain stereotypes and generalizations, such as feminine behavior or a certain type of clothing.
The Frisky -- There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I'm confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I'm going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years.
Queen's Freddie Mercury never wanted to have an in-depth discussion about his sexuality with the public. However, it was well known that this icon of rock had had relationships with both men and women. At one point he claimed to be bisexual, but he may have been a gay man who got involved with members of the opposite sex because he was trying to survive — and build a career — in a very homophobic world. Mercury died of an AIDS-related illness at the age of 45, taking his personal insights into his sexuality to the grave. Yet a look at the circumstances of his life, loves and career can still offer insight into who he truly was.